Volume XLIX
December 25, 2022
Christmas 2022
We begin this 49th epistle on the
surprising note that the most-read post on my blog (stirringthepudding.blogspot.com)
in the last year was the one about moving to Iowa. Hardly anyone but our
daughter knows us in Iowa, so the high readership must have come from folks in
Illinois who were happy to learn that they had finally gotten rid of us. 😊 No, not really. That’s a joke,
because the worst thing about our move to Iowa has been the severing of daily
ties with the many close friends we made in Monmouth over the years.
We
remain convinced of the truth in Tom Stoppard’s admonition from his play Arcadia
that “Life goes only forward, never back.” Accordingly, we now reaffirm that our
journey to Grand Living at Indian Creek was the right decision at the right
time for us. Beyond that there was satisfaction in the decluttering required in
making the move. Only those who have accumulated stuff by living in the same
large house for fifty years can know the freedom that comes with trying to
adopt the philosophy of the guru of the Arts and Crafts movement William Morris
who said long ago “Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful
or believe to be beautiful.”
This brings to mind another quote. “If you want to change the world, find
someone to help you paddle.” Now I doubt
we have changed the world, but I have had a fellow paddler for 63 years of
marriage. My wife Jan has been the mainstay of our family and my life. She is
once again branching out to make a difference in our new community. She helps
run a reading and writing group in our building and is committed to helping new
residents acclimate to life here. Meanwhile, we are both helping to keep the community
library in order and going outside our residence to help in our daughter’s
first grade classroom. Jim will be joining the resident council here in the New
Year and continues to write a family history and finish a murder mystery novel
that he started twenty years ago. And, would you believe it, both of us are
involved in a play to be done at our Christmas Eve celebration.
Our daughter Amy and her husband Todd continue to live in Marion, IA, about a ten-minute drive from us.
Amy still teaches
first grade at Hiawatha Elementary School in Cedar Rapids. Challenges remain in
all levels of the educational system, but she has the talent, commitment and
resiliency to face and conquer them in that most critical period of early
schooling. Husband Todd has continued to deal with major back problems. He has
had more surgery this past year and now has added water therapy to his list of remediations.
Even though he is now officially disabled, it has not kept him from doing a lot
of the household cooking and making deer jerky for his friends.
Their son Mikel is now a junior at the Upper Iowa University.
We feel he has become a more committed student this year. He
has narrowed his career focus down to the environmental resource area and has
found some professors who are mentors. He hopes to work for the Iowa DNR again
next summer.
Taylor Brown, who in his youth was TJ Brown, continues
to work for the Baytown, TX, fire department as a firefighter/paramedic. He recently
attended classes to update his national paramedic credentials and we have just
heard that he has received the Baytown firefighter of the year award for 2022. This was partially for his leadership of the
department’s Explorer Troop, which focuses on introducing young people to
careers in firefighting and emergency medical care. What an honor!
Meanwhile, in far off Helsinki, Finland, our son David, his wife Lotta, and their family continue to grow.
And when I say
grow, I really mean grow as David and Lotta are expecting their 3
rd
child in early January. Daughters Frida and Selma, now 10 and 7, are growing
too.
They can take hikes, ride bikes, hunt
mushrooms, cook, skate, ski, and play the piano. Their lives are just plain
full of school and outside activities.
Covid still lingers and David continues to work from
home a number of days each week. On the other hand, business travel is picking
up again, and he was sent to Singapore last month, He
has also completed an MFA degree in Poetry offered by New York University in
Paris, which goes along I guess with his degree from Grinnell College ages ago. That does remind me of a student from long ago who said “I’m going to graduate on time no matter
how long it takes.” Lotta also continues
to study and does private gestalt therapy appointments. We miss all of them
every day.
And that’s the year
that was. We have been blessed in our own lives this year and wish the same to you. That doesn’t mean we have forgotten about the
terrible war in the Ukraine or that our planet remains locked in a battle to
salvage a livable environment. We can continue to think about the challenges ahead even
as we celebrate our own good fortunes at this holiday season.
Jim and Jan De Young
e-mail us at dramajim@gmail.com or janetwdeyoung@gmail.com